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03-04-2008, 11:32 PM
hi, i've never posted before but am looking for some advice from people that are military and not civilian. my dh has been in the national guard (reserve duty) for 17 years. spent 18 months in iraq while our son was 3-4 1/2 yrs old. dh returned for about a yr now is active duty since sept. he has been working 4 hours from home and visits us on the weekend. when he started this he only had orders for 3 months. now he has orders again. i know a lot can change but i need advice. we did what we had to while dh was deployed and now this, i feel like we are a part time family and i wonder what the effects of not having a dad around full time will do to my son. my son is in kindergarten and we have lived here all our lives. what are your thoughts on staying here where my son has the stability and security of our home and extended family, friends, school. or pack up so our family can be together. if we did this any thoughts on waiting till the end of the school year, go now, i would be willing to home school. it seems like our son has had a lot to adjust to with all of this and i worry that i will add to it with changing this stability. we also are in the process of adopting a little girl age 1.5 yrs. my gut says pack up now and be a family, but what have other military families done. HELP.